I've had trouble figuring out log-in credentials for this account. I've had things to talk about but could never figure out how to get back here. Tonight's conversations made me mad enough to figure out the account log-in, so here I am.
Two topics for tonight....finishing what you start and who are we really punishing here?
What happened to my generation? I've seen people my age FOR YEARS let their 4 year old rule the roost. When did toddlers get so much authority that they know what's best? Why do we let our preschoolers run our lives? I witnessed a woman I went to school with let her 4 year old decide 6 weeks before our year-end recital that she didn't want to dance anymore. We were 8.5 months in....she had paid for 9 months of tuition, 2 costumes and recital fees and then they walked away. I thought because I had gone to school with her from elementary school on that I knew her a little better than that and even confronted her about it. "I'm not going to make her do something she doesn't like." The thing was...the girl was fine in class & loved it. Toddlers don't know what they like. They don't like naps and yet they need one. They don't like turning the TV off & going to bed and yet I bet you insist that she does that. You couldn't have made her tough it out the last 6 weeks?
We've seen it so much that we now have "substantial penalties for early withdrawal". You giving in to your toddler just penalized us and every other child in that class. And if she was that unhappy, why didn't you quit 5 months ago when you could have got a refund? Who's the parent here?
And tonight...a mom says that they won't be dancing because her 5 year old won't clean her room. Nevermind she's already bought shoes and clothes and invested money in dance lessons that she's now withholding from a child who probably doesn't even understand why she can't go to dance anymore. We absolutely do not agree with that form of parenting. If you want to punish a child for not doing their chores, taking away a structured learning activity is not the way to go about doing it. Take away electronic time...take away play dates...take away fun activities until it gets done. But dance teaches discipline, so don't use that as a way to punish them!
The thing is....had the brother been going to karate, I would bet money that they would not have taken karate away as a punishment.
Who are you really punishing? Not the child...they don't even understand why they can't go back to dance. You're only punishing yourself for buying the shoes & the outfits & spending the money on lessons that she's now getting nothing out of.
If you don't want to continue in dance, don't make excuses. I'm tired of hearing it & I will fight back. Evidently, she didn't like that I fought back. Just waiting for her mouth to start running now.
